Why am I in this season of waiting?

“I am sure God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait,” C.S. Lewis.

I came across this quote today and thought about how accurate it really is. There are so many aspects of our lives that we can relate this quote to whether it is that job that we really, really want or that man that we have been so desperately waiting for.

Speaking of relationships, I know that in my life, this is what I struggle with daily. Now don’t get me wrong; I am a strong, independent woman (can I get a Beyoncé?), but sometimes I just want a man to help me change my tire, ok. With all jokes aside, I have a hard time waiting on God’s timing sometimes.

Every time I turn around it seems that one of my friends is starting a new relationship or is getting engaged or married, and honestly sometimes I feel a little left out (picture 27 Dresses- that’s me). I think that in our lives, mine especially, I see so many happy people in great relationships and I think, why not me? When is it my turn? I have waited so long, where is he?

Remember God’s timing is perfect.

Girls (and to the guys out there too!) your time is coming! Remember that God is going to give you someone when you are ready.

God is making you wait because there is a reason, even if you don’t always see it.

In the aspect of relationships, God is taking this time to mold both you and your (maybe soon to be) significant other. To have a Godly relationship, you both should be pointed and focused on God. He is just helping you out! He’s giving you this time to work on your relationship with Him and your relationship with yourself. He knows what he is doing!

God should always be your number one. This is the time you should be using to strengthen your relationship with him.

I remember a time when I would sit in my room, loathing in self pity because another one of my girlfriends got engaged. Was I not good enough? Why was it her and not me? During this time, instead of moping around, I could have been bettering myself and my relationship with God.

In the times that I am feeling lonely, I like to remember that there is someone out there that is dying to meet me, wondering who I am. I think about how God is molding him into the man that will someday become my ‘perfect’ husband. I think about how God is using this time to change my heart and help it grow in a way that will be ready for this man when the time is right.

I like to pray for this man and our future relationship. I think that is something that God wants us to do. I pray that God makes him into the man that he is supposed to be, and I ask God to give this man the strength to continue his walk with the Lord. I pray for his relationship with Jesus and that his faith grows and deepens.

Remember, in this season of waiting, God is using you for a purpose.

All in all, this shouldn’t be the loneliest time of your life, but a time of growth and love. Never give up, because God has a plan for your life.

 

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The season of singleness

Ring by spring. Oh the many times I have heard that. On my campus the joke is ring by spring your junior year. We are nicknamed Southwest Bridal College. We have two gazebos; the break up gazebo and the engagement gazebo. You could say that the talk of love is always in the air.

I am going into my junior year of college and I am single. I guess I won’t be receiving the most anticipated ring by spring and I am definitely okay with that.

Everyone seems to have this idea in their heads that by the time you graduate college you have to have your life together; you have to be good at this whole being an adult thing. You need the perfect job and the perfect person that you are going to spend your life with right after you walk across that stage.

Sometimes I think that people look at singleness as a negative thing. You’re supposed to be unhappy and lonely if you don’t have that one person that makes you complete.

This is bull crap.

Singleness is a gift.

Now don’t get me wrong. I am so excited for the day that I can walk down the aisle in a beautiful white dress, but for now I am using this time as a learning tool.

Singleness is the only time that you can be selfish and do what is best for yourself. It is a time of self-growth and discovery. This is the time that you can find what you are looking for in a partner. To make yourself worthy of this person. To better yourself.

Use this time to find yourself. What makes you, you. Your passion. Use this time to realize what you deserve and what you need.

Singleness shouldn’t be looked upon with negativity. This is a moment that should be used with gratitude not sadness.

Being single is only a season.

And it is a season worth the journey.

 

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